The law of attraction dictates that you will receive from the Universe exactly that which emanates from you! When you learn to unconditionally love, respect and accept yourself, you will receive the same from others. If we continuously express negative feelings and emotions regarding ourselves, then we can only expect to attract people who will share the same sentiments directed towards us that we ourselves exhibit.

Many people are disappointed in their ability to attract love and healthy loving relationships into their lives. Many of these very same individuals may even check any number of the most common characteristics people look for in a partner: attractive, intelligent, financially established, good family, healthy, fun, kind, etc. If, however, a person is highly self-critical, self-punishing, indulges feelings of unworthiness, displays a lack of self-confidence, a lack of self-esteem, and worst of all, a lack of self-love to name just a few negative emotions that have the potential to derail love, we need go no further in understanding why such a person will continually be disappointed in their love life and experience any number of failed relationships. 

Simply stated, the healthier and more loving a relationship you have with yourself, then inevitably, you will attract, to the very same degree, healthier and more loving relationships to you.

It behooves you to address, resolve and dissolve the obstacles and impediments that have previously prohibited you from first loving yourself unconditionally and secondly attracting and claiming love with your ideal mate. When you yourself are the obstacle to love, you have to learn to get out of your own way; especially if it means letting go of the incorrect beliefs and delusions you harbor about yourself that have sabotaged and derailed you from having a healthy loving relationship with yourself and consequently others.